Tag: boundary setting

  • Agency Must Be Practiced, Not Merely Discussed

    A person can understand agency long before she can use it. She may know: I am allowed to say no. I can disagree. I can change my mind. I do not have to explain everything. I can ask for another…

  • When Captivity Begins Before Differentiation

    Much recovery language assumes there was once a freer self to return to. A person became traumatized. Lost confidence. Stopped trusting herself. Became disconnected from her body. Lost access to agency. Developed survival strategies. Recovery then becomes a process of…

  • The Cost of Differentiation

    A person can be told she is free while living inside a relationship where becoming distinct carries consequences. She can technically disagree. Technically say no. Technically leave. Technically choose differently. Technically set a boundary. But if exercising that freedom threatens…

  • When The Architecture Moves Inside

    What Remains When External Access Ends Leaving a coercive environment and becoming internally free from it are not necessarily the same event. A relationship can end. A boundary can close. An institution can lose access. A person can physically leave.…